A Cup of Obsession

So I have been reading the blog A Cup of Joe obsessively this past week. Guest bloggers are writing in with their secrets to a happy marriage. It is very interesting reading what people have to share in regards to a happy marriage and much like making a happy list, which I did a while ago, I think it helps to focus on the positive aspects of a relationship. When things get bumpy, that positivity can make all the difference.

It has also got me thinking about what a happy relationship means to me and the secrets that I have to share. I must also add that I still have soooo much to learn, so this is my secret list in progress.

Do it with your best friend

That way you can be confident in sharing all the details with them. From a bad day to a great achievement to a monstrous trip and fall in front of a restaurant full of strangers. If you can share it with a best friend, it is that much better.

Listen, Learn, and Laugh

Be willing to listen and learn from each other. While learning from each other, you need to be able to laugh with each other. For example, when I am golfing and miss the ball 5 times in a row, laugh with me and at me, don't get annoyed.

Explore

Go on as many adventures as you can, both planned and unplanned, as often as possible. I love seeing the world through someone else's eyes. You see twice as much.

Do something nice

Once a day, so something nice for each other. Make dinner, send a text message unexpected, offer to give them a massage...

This is also in honor of my parent's upcoming 39th wedding anniversary. One major thing about their relationship that always comes to mind is their nightly talks in bed. They always would talk about the day and what lie ahead, so communication would the most important secret I learned from them. Happy Anniversary M & D!

I must note that I am forever learning what I value and appreciate in relationships, but the more confident I have become in myself the easier it seems to be.

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